Facebook Manners

Times have changed people used to wake up and read newspapers, now people wake up with FB and go to bed saying goodnight on FB. This addiction has become a great time killer for all age groups.

It is a fun and useful tool to build up relationships and stay connected with friends and family. But there are some unsaid rules which are highlighted below:

Quality and not quantity:

It is not a rat race to see who can get the highest number of friends. Set up your mind as to which type of friends you need; either school mates, college mates or relatives. Do you really want them? Please note if you are perfectly okay with them or if they are not in line with your thinking, ignore them and don’t hesitate.

Personal message:

It is a great place to reconnect with old friends. Do send a message before inviting a friend to FB, as leaving a personal message is a friendly and respectful thing to do.

Selection of photos:

When you add your photographs, you select only your favorite snaps. Kindly do the same when you upload a friend’s photo too because the photos you post on FB will be instantly available to hundreds of people to see. So ask permission before you display the photographs of others. If not, at least be thoughtful enough to consider a good picture. If someone is in their bathing suit or it’s a crazy party scene or if they look bigger than they really are then please don’t publish it.  

Simply simple LIKE

It is a good feeling to share the exciting moments in ones life with friends and family through photographs or a post. Be cool enough to bring a smile on the person’s face by just clicking on “like”; it’s that simple.

A fast checklist

Ø  Don’t get someone who can’t handle internet humor.

Ø  Don’t change your relationship status without consulting the other person.

Ø  Smart conversation is needed whether you are married, single, young or old.

Ø  Don’t steal other people’s friends.

Ø  Don’t start hate group.

Ø  Share and enjoy.

Ø  Be discreet when posting message in another person’s wall

Ø  FB is slowly kills personal life, so learn where to draw the line.

Ø  If one goes through some ugly experience on FB, always remember “I don’t even know him/her”…won’t stand up because we always have a choice in accepting a friend invite, right?

Ø  Appreciation is very important that shows your character towards other people, a few words: ‘thank you’ and ‘likes’ doesn’t cost anything but remember you can bring smiles on faces.

Ø  If someone has sent you a message; be polite enough to reply back.

Ø  Wishing on their birthday or any other special occasion is a wonderful way to keep in touch.

Ø  Stupidity or jealousy can break a relationship.

Face Book has allowed us to share our lives, beliefs, problems with the people we know and love. It is also helps us create our own identity; the best part is we are just a click away from people that we have not met for years.

Mama

 “It’s a transparent world, be yourself”

Understanding your Partner

Falling in love is always magical. When in love we feel it will last forever. We naively believe that somehow we are exempted from the problems that other couples face and we are destined to live happily ever after. But as the magic recedes and daily life takes over,   women expect  men to feel and behave like women, and men expect women to think and react  like men. Without a clear awareness of our differences, we do not take time to understand and respect each other. We become demanding, resentful, judgmental and intolerant.

With the best and most loving intentions, love continues to die. Somehow the problems creep in, the resentments build. Communications break down, mistrust increases. The magic of love is lost.

To keep the magic going, it’s important to learn, understand and accept the differences as MEN and WOMEN.

Importance of listening

A woman just wants to share her feelings about her day, whereas her husband, thinking he is helping, interrupts her by offering a steady flow of solutions to her problems. Men should simply listen patiently with empathy, seeking truly to understand the other’s feelings.

Problem solving

Men feel better solving their problems alone. Women should understand and respect this. They hate being pitied.

Advice

A woman needs to remember that unsolicited advice or criticism especially when he has made a mistake it makes him feel unloved and controlled. He feels that she is treating him like a child.

Heated argument

Men should never walk out in middle of an argument. If so, women feel rejected and lonely, because silence is interpreted by women as being left out alone.  Whereas simple gestures by men like -touching, holding and listening are very important factors for women.

Communicate without blame

When a woman complains, a man takes it as blame. Many men fail to understand that women need to share “upset” feelings with the people they love. A woman usually expresses her feelings in superlatives and generalizations e.g.: “we never go out” -this may not be true in reality. ` 

Motivation

A man’s deepest fear is that he isn’t good enough. But when he feels appreciated, trusted and accepted he feels motivated to give in more in a relationship. Women are happy when they believe their needs will be met.

MAMA

“Little changes can be made without sacrificing who we are”.  This is the secret for a beautiful relationship.